I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about how to be happier. Almost everyone loves being happy (and sometimes we desperately need to be happier), so why not see if we can find more of a good thing.
After a lot of research and testing, here are ways I found to be happier.
By the way, most of these ideas are supported by science.
If you still need a reason to read this article, point #1 will help you get more sex.
Have sex. Yes, sex feels great.
Perhaps it can even count towards that scientifically proven point that exercise makes us happier? Or, it will help us sleep better?
If not, there is scientific proof that sex creates significant happiness (Guys, you can thank me later for including this one).
Another study, by a Dartmouth College economist and professor at University of Warwick in England found that sex created more happiness than money. They estimate increasing intercourse from once a month to once a week is equivalent to the amount of happiness generated by getting an additional $50,000 in income for the average American.
1.See setbacks and obstacles as growth opportunities
Jack Andraka was rejected by 199 research institutions before he found a home for his research and developed a breakthrough diagnostic cancer test (at age 15). Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team. Steven Spielberg was rejected from film school. It’s ok to fail and have challenges. Your failures are your best opportunities to learn. Hopefully, you can see them that way.
2.Let yourself be a novice
No one begins as an expert. And, if you think about it, experts built the Titanic. A couple of students who didn’t know what they were doing built Google. Who would you rather be?
3.Don’t sweat the small stuff
Before you get upset, ask yourself, “Will this matter tomorrow, next week or in a year?” If you get upset at someone who cut the line or a customer service representative or anyone else, you’re not hurting him. You’re only affecting your own happiness.
4.Don’t be a maximizer
You can spend all day surfing the Internet to find the absolute best price on a new TV. Unless that is significant money for you don’t worry. Your gift doesn’t have to be perfect; it has to be thoughtful. Your house can be clean, but it doesn’t have to be immaculate.
5.Find your purpose
Your mission could be being a great parent, a great spouse, an excellent gardener or saving the world. We’re happier when we have a purpose.
People are constantly searching for their purpose and what’s most important to them. Here’s an exercise to help you figure that out:
Imagine you’re at your own funeral. What would you like people to say about you? How would you like to be remembered?
Now, how do you become that person?
6.Live your values
Believe and act upon your personal values. That builds contentment over time.
7.Live true to yourself
So many people don’t live their dreams, because they do what someone else expects.
8.Live for today
Waiting for a day that is less busy is waiting for a day that will never come. Don’t put off what makes you happy.
9.Baby steps towards life goals
Along the lines of the above suggestion, many people have really big life goals. Goals so big that work on the goals never gets started. Break big dreams into small achievable steps, and then focus on taking one step at a time. The progress makes us happy. The small steps give us a chance to achieve our goals.
10.It’s never the right time
Whether it’s changing jobs or pursuing your dream, the time is never right. Find a way to start small now. Take that small step to make progress and start making your dream a reality.
11.Don’t talk bad about people
You’ll feel bad afterwards and it doesn’t achieve anything. Look for the positive and talk about that (or say nothing).
Put more effort into understanding the people around you. Really listen and ask questions to understand them. You’ll have better conversations and better perspective.
13. Be Kind
14. Help other people
I’ve always believed that the more you help others the happier you’ll be, and now I’ve discovered scientific evidence that it’s true. (By the way, even helping people at work makes you happier, according to this study from the University of Wisconsin Madison)
To get you started, here are over 60 easy, meaningful ways to help someone with acts of kindness, and here are 17 random acts of kindness for kids–ideas for raising grateful and kind kids.
Holding a grudge only makes you feel bad. Don’t let someone who has treated you poorly have the power to take away your joy.
16.Give to yourself
Make time for you, your education and your health.
17. Forgive yourself